{"id":137494,"date":"2021-04-21T15:30:39","date_gmt":"2021-04-21T13:30:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thecuriousbrain.com\/?p=137494"},"modified":"2021-04-21T15:30:43","modified_gmt":"2021-04-21T13:30:43","slug":"how-to-be-kinder-to-ourselves","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thecuriousbrain.com\/?p=137494","title":{"rendered":"How to Be Kinder to Ourselves"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"922\" height=\"519\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/41wMbLb9M2Q?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Many of us have a tendency to be very unkind towards ourselves; made all the more pernicious by the fact that we are not even aware of doing so. To practice greater self-compassion, we need to recognize the forms our self-hatred takes &#8211; and where their roots might lie.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Many of us have a tendency to be very unkind towards ourselves; made all the more pernicious by the fact that we are not even aware of doing so. 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