{"id":139284,"date":"2021-08-25T15:55:22","date_gmt":"2021-08-25T13:55:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thecuriousbrain.com\/?p=139284"},"modified":"2021-08-25T15:55:25","modified_gmt":"2021-08-25T13:55:25","slug":"how-perfectionism-makes-us-ill","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thecuriousbrain.com\/?p=139284","title":{"rendered":"How Perfectionism Makes Us Ill"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"922\" height=\"519\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/hK6mdoxXrIc?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2018Perfectionists\u2019 are generally held in high-esteem: praised for their self-discipline and refusal to compromise. Yet in truth, the trait is a manifestation of self-hatred &#8211; and must be overcome if we are ever to feel truly fulfilled.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u2018Perfectionists\u2019 are generally held in high-esteem: praised for their self-discipline and refusal to compromise. 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