{"id":140733,"date":"2022-03-30T19:50:59","date_gmt":"2022-03-30T17:50:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thecuriousbrain.com\/?p=140733"},"modified":"2022-03-30T19:51:03","modified_gmt":"2022-03-30T17:51:03","slug":"stop-trying-to-be-nice-all-the-time","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thecuriousbrain.com\/?p=140733","title":{"rendered":"Stop Trying to Be Nice All the Time"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"922\" height=\"519\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/-TxzW4eklEU?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Nearly all of us wish to be known as &#8216;nice&#8217; people. 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